At Best Self Counseling Center, we believe that understanding yourself is the first step toward growth. One of the most important areas to explore is your attachment style—the way you connect with others in relationships. Whether it's with a partner, friend, or even family member, your attachment style influences how you bond, communicate, and handle challenges.
So, what exactly is an attachment style?
There are four main types:
Secure Attachment – If you feel confident in relationships and trust that others will be there for you, you likely have a secure attachment. You’re comfortable with closeness but also with spending time apart, and you’re good at communicating your needs.
Anxious Attachment – Do you often worry about being abandoned or feel the need for constant reassurance? Those with an anxious attachment style might find themselves overly focused on their relationships and seeking validation from others.
Avoidant Attachment – If you prefer independence and often distance yourself emotionally from others, you might have an avoidant attachment style. People with this style tend to avoid closeness, even if they care deeply about someone.
Fearful-Avoidant (or Disorganized) Attachment – This is a mix of both anxious and avoidant tendencies. Someone with this style may want close relationships but feel afraid of getting hurt, leading to confusing or unpredictable behaviors.
Why does this matter?
Your attachment style begins forming especially in early childhood with your primary caregivers, though continues being shaped by your ongoing life experiences and relationships. It can shape how you experience love, handle conflict, and respond to stress. But here’s the good news: you’re not stuck with it. Becoming aware of your attachment style is the first step toward healthier relationships. Through reflection and support, you can learn new ways to connect and communicate, operating from more of a secure attachment style.
At Best Self Counseling Center, we're here to help you explore these patterns, heal from past experiences, and create secure, meaningful connections.
Want to learn more?
Reach out to us for a session, and let’s start your journey to becoming your best self.
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